Showing posts with label caring for people. Show all posts
Showing posts with label caring for people. Show all posts

Friday, August 24, 2012

A Caring Heart: How Much Do You Care For People?



A Caring Heart: How Much Do You Care For People?
~ Dr. Robert Gilbert ~
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People don’t care how much you know until they know how much they care.

Did you ever realize that when you meet a person who cares, you know it instantly? You don’t have to spend six months with them until it finally dawns on you, “Wow, they really care.”

I had this instant recognition last spring when I visited the Charles J. Riley School 9 in Paterson, New Jersey. Within moments of entering the building, I knew I was in a caring, nurturing environment. I could feel it in the air.

My original assumption was supported when I walked into the main office and saw the Charles J. Riley School Motto:
  • The schoolwork I am asking you to do is important.
  • I know that you can do it.
  • I won’t give up on you.

Now know that you might not be a teacher by profession, but I also know that in some respect, you are someone’s teacher. Whether you’re a manager, a mom, a dad, a relative, or a friend, you can show someone you care by:
  • Caring enough to do important things with them or helping them with important things like their problems.
  • Caring enough to believe in their abilities.
  • Caring enough to stick by them through the tough times and not give up on them.

Right now think of three people who have made a significant positive impact on your life. I would guess that one thing these people have in common is that they really care for you.

Marian Wright Edelman once said, “You can change the world if you care enough.”
Remember…once people know how much you care, then they will care how much you know.
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Sunday, August 12, 2012

A Story of Compassion - Unconditional Love


Many times in life, we fail to care and love those people around us. Never judge a person by their looks or a book by its cover because all these could be deceiving. Give everyone an equal opportunity to share their life with you…because everybody needs a little love, care and a need to be wanted. I hope that after reading today's story, we will show more attention to the people around us before it's too late.

“Ugly”
~ Author Unknown ~
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Everyone in the apartment complex I lived in knew who “Ugly” was. “Ugly” was the resident tomcat. “Ugly” loved three things in this world: fighting, eating garbage, and shall we say, love.
The combination of these things combined with a life spent outside had their effect on “Ugly”.
To start with, he had only one eye, and where the other should have been was a gaping hole. He was also missing his ear on the same side, his left foot appeared to have been badly broken at one time, and had healed at an unnatural angle, making him look like he was always turning the corner.
His tail has long since been lost, leaving only the smallest stub, which he would constantly jerk and twitch. Ugly would have been a dark gray tabby striped-type, except for the sores covering his head, neck, even his shoulders with thick, yellowing scabs. Every time someone saw "Ugly" there was the same reaction. "That's one ugly cat!"
All the children were warned not to touch him, the adults threw rocks at him, hosed him down, squirted him when he tried to come in their homes, or shut his paws in the door when he would not leave. “Ugly” always had the same reaction. If you turned the hose on him, he would stand there, getting soaked until you gave up and quit. If you threw things at him, he would curl his lanky body around your feet in forgiveness. Whenever he spied children, he would come running meowing frantically and bump his head against their hands, begging for their love. If you ever picked him up he would immediately begin suckling on your shirt, earrings, whatever he could find.
One day “Ugly” shared his love with the neighbors’ huskies. They did not respond kindly, and “Ugly” was badly mauled. From my apartment I could hear his screams, and I tried to rush to his aid. By the time I got to where he was laying, it was apparent “Ugly's” sad life was almost at an end.
“Ugly” lay in a wet circle, his back legs and lower back twisted grossly out of shape, a gaping tear in the white strip of fur that ran down his front. As I picked him up and tried to carry him home I could hear him wheezing and gasping, and could feel him struggling. I must be hurting him terribly I thought. Then I felt a familiar tugging, sucking sensation on my ear- “Ugly”, in so much pain, suffering and obviously dying was trying to suckle my ear. I pulled him closer to me, and he bumped the palm of my hand with his head, then he turned his one golden eye towards me, and I could hear the distinct sound of purring. Even in the greatest pain, that ugly battled-scarred cat was asking only for a little affection, perhaps some compassion.
At that moment I thought Ugly was the most beautiful, loving creature I had ever seen. Never once did he try to bite or scratch me, or even try to get away from me, or struggle in any way. “Ugly” just looked up at me completely trusting in me to relieve his pain.
“Ugly” died in my arms before I could get inside, but I sat and held him for a long time afterwards, thinking about how one scarred, deformed little stray could so alter my opinion about what it means to have true pureness of spirit, to love so totally and truly. “Ugly” taught me more about giving and compassion than a thousand books, lectures, or talk show specials ever could, and for that I will always be thankful. He had been scarred on the outside, but I was scarred on the inside, and it was time for me to move on and learn to love others more truly and deeply.
How often do we reject or stay away from an ugly person or people who may not be that good-looking, be less fortunate than we are, or who are unpleasant to have around you? How many times do we turn away those people who are just crying out and begging for a little love and affection?
On the other hand…how many of us are like “Ugly”? No matter what people did to him or how mean they treated him ALWAYS was looking for a friend and had an endless amount of love and faithfulness to the ones that treated him badly?
Many people want to be richer, more successful, well liked and beautiful, but for me, I will always try to be "Ugly".
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Monday, May 14, 2012

The Cab Ride I'll Never Forget


The Cab Ride I'll Never Forget
by Kent Nerburn

Twenty years ago, I drove a cab for a living. One time I arrived in the middle of the night for a pick up at a building that was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window.
Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once or twice, wait a minute, then drive away. But I had seen too many impoverished people who depended on taxis as their only means of transportation. Unless a situation smelled of danger, I always went to the door. This passenger might be someone who needs my assistance, I reasoned to myself. So I walked to the door and knocked.
"Just a minute," answered a frail, elderly voice.
I could hear something being dragged across the floor. After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 80's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940s movie. By her side was a small nylon suitcase.
The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.
"Would you carry my bag out to the car?" she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb. She kept thanking me for my kindness.
"It's nothing," I told her. "I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated."
"Oh, you're such a good boy," she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, then asked, "Could you drive through downtown?"
"It's not the shortest way," I answered quickly.
"Oh, I don't mind," she said. "I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice."
I looked in the rear view mirror. Her eyes were glistening.
"I don't have any family left," she continued. "The doctor says I don't have very long."
I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. "What route would you like me to take?" I asked.
For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.
Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.
As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, "I'm tired. Let's go now."
We drove in silence to the address she had given me.
It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her. I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.
"How much do I owe you?" she asked, reaching into her purse.
"Nothing," I said.
"You have to make a living," she answered.
"There are other passengers."
Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.
"You gave an old woman a little moment of joy," she said. "Thank you."
I squeezed her hand, then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.
I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly, lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?
On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life. We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware—beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

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